Scene Issues! Help pleasee!?

i'm scene-esque and soo happyy and really i can't be total scene cuz my mom doesn't approve. no one really understands cuz i am the onlyy scene at my school(don't be fooled by the avatar i made that 4 yrs ago and i can't figure out how 2 change it so i need help with that 2) but anyhoo, yeahh, honestly i'm just probably gonna dye my hair and get extensions, but i'm all confused. should i go total scene, not listening to my mum. and my hair is red so what color should i dye it and what should i start doing? thankss soo much! PEACE